Do you ever go to a social event and watch people? I mean just watch how they interact with each other. You pretty much see two types of people.
There are those that are “people magnets” and then there are those that are “people repellants”. Of course, as network marketers, we want to get to the status of become people magnets. But how?
One of the things that your average person lacks is the fact that we don’t take responsibility for the relationships in our lives. What I mean by this is we want people to approach us by “an act of nature”.
In general a lot of us don’t initiate a relationship at all. According to John C. Maxwell, in order for you to have a solid relationship that brings fulfillment, you have to change your mindset when it comes to dealing with others.
Here are four ways he came up that will help you:
PLACE A HIGH VALUE ON PEOPLE
You want to expect the best out of people. Assume that their motives are good unless they prove otherwise. Give them your friendship rather asking for theirs.
LEARN TO UNDERSTAND PEOPLE
Listen to people. The best conversations are the ones about the other persons. Keep in mind the following truth’s about people:
- People are insecure……give them confidence.
- People want to feel special……sincerely compliment them
- People desire a better tomorrow……show them hope
- People are selfish….speak to their needs first
- People get emotionally low….encourage them
- People want to be assicated with success…..help them win
GIVE RESPECT FREELY BUT EXPECT TO EARN IT FROM OTHERS
Give respect to others, but this doesn’t give you the right to demand it in return. You have to earn it. If you respect yourself, respect others, and exhibit competance, others will almost always give you respect.
COMMIT YOURSELF TO ADDING VALUE TO OTHERS
“Carve your name on hearts and not on marble” – Charles Spurgeon
The best way to do this is to add value by:
- Looking for ability in others
- Helping others discover their ability
- Helping others develop their ability
If you want to make relationships a priority, you must check your motives to be sure you are not trying to manipulate others for your own gain.
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August 11, 2010 at 8:12 am
John and Sue - Mentoring You For Success
Hi Sherman, thank you for this awesome advise, as network marketers we all need to learn these valuble lessons.
Your Friend and Mentor
Sue Douglas
August 11, 2010 at 2:44 pm
sksmith
Definitely John and Sue. thanks for stopping by to comment!
August 11, 2010 at 8:27 am
Marcus Baker
I loved this post Sherman. I especially like your point about committing to adding value to others. I think the way in which we impact on other’s lives positively would be a better way to measure our success.
~Marcus
August 11, 2010 at 2:42 pm
Sherman Smith
Thanks Marcus for your comment! Being committed to adding values to others is a great way to maintain a strong relationship with others. It all comes back to you in a positive way.
August 11, 2010 at 4:56 pm
Michael Novak
Excellent post Sherman! I love Maxwell and the insights he is always bringing to the table!
The common trend that is throughout those 4 points is that you are always focused on the other person and what you can do for them, instead of what they can do for you. I think that is what attracts us to people.
If we know they aren’t expecting something from us, we are more likely to approach somebody. Then if they add value to our lives, we are likely to stay!
Thank you again for the great post Sherman!
August 11, 2010 at 6:03 pm
Sherman Smith
Hey Michael,
Thanks for your comment! This is great way to attracting people to us. These are great points that works in all areas in lives.
August 11, 2010 at 6:20 pm
Charlie Holles
This is a great post Sherman. I particularly like the truths about people that you describe. We often think that it is only us that ever feels low or insecure. But we are all so alike really.
If you have tried to go to my blog recently, it is not there just now. I have to rebuild it with another host as it got lost in cyberspace. Hope to have it back in a few days.
Regards
Charlie Holles
August 11, 2010 at 9:46 pm
Sherman Smith
Sorry to hear that Charlie, but I’ll be looking forward to reading your blog post as soon as you have it up. Thanks for the comment!
August 12, 2010 at 3:49 am
steve shoemaker
Great post Sherman and great quotes from John Maxwell.
I think the essence of what he was saying was in order to be a leader we have step out and take on the responsibility of being a leader.
We can’t wait around, we can’t wait for every favor to be repaid we just try to be big enough to do what is needed no matter the circumstance.
People recognize these things intrinsically I believe and your proven leadership will soon have it’s proven rewards.
But it takes the effort.
Steve Shoemaker
August 12, 2010 at 4:11 am
Sherman Smith
Most definitely. If you want to be the recognize as a leader you have to take the bull by the horn and take responsibility. The probably is people do not want to make that effort. They’re always waiting for great “things” to happen to them without any effort from them. Thanks for your comment Steve!
August 12, 2010 at 4:05 am
Maria Eves
COMMIT YOURSELF TO ADDING VALUE TO OTHERS this is what says it all Sherman.
“Carve your name on hearts and not on marble” – Charles Spurgeon
This is a great post a must to read.
August 12, 2010 at 4:08 am
Sherman Smith
If you want to attract people you have to commit yourself to adding value to others. This is very vital to your business. Thanks for your comment Maria!!
August 12, 2010 at 2:37 pm
Jennifer Harvey
This is a must read! Everyone should practice this daily.
August 12, 2010 at 2:38 pm
sksmith
Thanks Jennifer! Thanks for the comment!
August 12, 2010 at 2:37 pm
Peter Fuller MBA
Hey Sherman
Another solid post my friend.
I like what you said about motive.
As netwokers, are we willing to help someone even if it means that as a result of that help they will not join our business?
Every time I attend an event I go in with that mindset.
Thanks for the great read Sherman.
August 12, 2010 at 2:40 pm
sksmith
Thanks Peter. We all should go into that mindset. It’s funny how we can pique the interest and attract more people with that mentality. Thanks for your comment!
August 13, 2010 at 2:29 pm
Tristram Lodge
Hi Sherman,
People love to talk about themselves so in reality it should be easy to talk to others. People also have a strong desire of of being wanted and a part of something. By giving these to people you will become a magnet.
Great post sherman and thanks for sharing.
Tristram Lodge
August 13, 2010 at 2:32 pm
Sherman Smith
thanks Tristam. I really appreciate your comment!!
August 13, 2010 at 3:00 pm
Mark Gubuan
Sherman,
This post reminds me that we should get out from behind the computer to go out and socialize at live events often. Great post.
August 13, 2010 at 6:56 pm
sksmith
Definitely Mark! That’s another good reason to use old school network marketing tactics which is the foundation of the industry. Thanks for your comment!
August 15, 2010 at 10:59 pm
Ilka Flood
Hi Sherman,
Absolutely loved this post! Especially …
“Carve your name on hearts and not on marble” – Charles Spurgeon
How true! That goes right in line with what I read on someone else’s blog today…
“When you came into this world you were crying and everyone else was smiling. Leave this world smiling and everyone else is crying.”
Great stuff!
Ilka
August 16, 2010 at 12:18 am
Sherman Smith
Thanks for your comment Ilka! I really appreciate it!
August 19, 2010 at 9:43 pm
Dwayne Huggins
Hey Sherman
You hit the nail on the head with this one.
Have a genuine interest in people and many door of opportunity will open up to you.
Chat soon
Dwayne
August 19, 2010 at 9:48 pm
Sherman Smith
Thats the only way to connect! Thanks Dwayne for your comment!
August 20, 2010 at 3:49 am
Elmar Sandyck
Hi Sherman, these are all excellent tips! It’s really our relationships with people that matter the most, and I agree with you about placing a high value on people. Most of the time we focus on our need to be accepted and wanted that we forget to help others shine too. The principle of give and take is very applicable in marketing too, because before we get anything from prospects, clients or customers, it’s really important to give a part of ourselves too and sharing our knowledge with all sincerity. Definitely bookmarking your post. Thanks!
August 20, 2010 at 2:35 pm
sksmith
Hey Elmar,
This industry is all about building solid relationship and it’s a great way to attract people. Once you do that, as true entrepreneur, the next step is to sort through to find the right person for the business. Thanks for your comment!!
August 23, 2010 at 7:42 am
Walter
Long before I have realized that in order to be a people magnet one must put the affairs of others first. Humans by nature are selfish and they would appreciate those who attend to their concern. The methods you have shared here are indeed powerful, but unfortunately, few are ware of this.
Excellent piece.
August 23, 2010 at 2:21 pm
sksmith
Hey Walter,
It took me a long time to realize this method is the way to attract a lot of people. So many people that are in this industry use selfish ways to get what they want but don’t realize how important to be of value to the other person first in order to become successful. Thanks for your comment Walter!!
September 2, 2010 at 3:45 am
Kathy Sammons
Great post. Most of us know how to build relationships person to person. We would not run up to someone in a mall or a club and start urging them to join us in a business. We would not go to a party and start screaming to everyone about the latest and greatest payment plan of our new job! So, why is it that we think it is any different out here? It is like we have to relearn our manners. LOL
The new skill that we must learn is attraction marketing, it does take time but other wise you are going to burn out all of your prospects.
Thanks for the lessons,
Kathy Sammons
Kathy Sammons Dot Com
September 2, 2010 at 2:15 pm
sksmith
LOL.. you got that right Kathy! Thanks for stopping by to comment on my blog
November 16, 2010 at 9:33 am
brigitte charlon
I am glad to share this post everywhere on my walls Sherman, this is a gift that give readers the opportunity to grab the mindset that you promote so well here.
Aloha!
November 16, 2010 at 3:12 pm
sksmith
Thanks brigitte for stopping by to comment!
November 24, 2010 at 8:13 am
Cartoon Blog
Hey Sherman,
This is a great post. You are right…network marketing is a selfish industry. There is a need for more training like this.
J
November 24, 2010 at 4:43 pm
sksmith
Thanks Jeremiah for stopping by and commenting. People are selfish in general and if we place a high value on people, this will definitely attract people to you and your business.
January 4, 2011 at 10:38 pm
Tosin
Hey Sherman,
I could not agree with you more. When you genuinely care about people, people know and they tend to respond in kind.
This is an awesome post for me to start the year with.
Have an Exciting Year Sherman!
Tosin
…fear is the passion of slaves!
January 4, 2011 at 10:45 pm
Sherman Smith
Hey Tosin thanks for stopping by. Yes when you’re genuinely focused on people, then people tend to respond positively towards you. This is what the law of attraction is about. Happy New Year and take care!!!
February 2, 2011 at 12:44 pm
Squeaky
You hit the nail right on the head with this one….Building a solid relationship is key because why?? Word of mouth is & will always be the best promotion & FREE advertising you can ask for & all that depends on how you treat your customers;) It can be a good thing & bad thing
February 2, 2011 at 3:05 pm
sksmith
Hey Squeaky, thanks for stopping by to comment. Building solid relationship is definitely the key if you want to be success. Take care!!
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June 22, 2011 at 11:27 pm
sksmith
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February 19, 2012 at 8:58 pm
Mia Zolpidem
What a wonderful article. Thank you very much. The relationship is always a kind of work, and above all,is a work with yourself. Inspiring article.
February 20, 2012 at 5:50 pm
sksmith
Your welcome Mia!